13 Amazing Q and A for the Youth by Guruji

Guruji says - There are two types of youth. One is the youth that grows up and gets older and older and the second type of youth is the kind who refuses to get old. What type of youth are you? Tell me. And if you have done ART excel, Young Adult or Yes+ you refuse to grow up. You reverse the aging. Those who are grown up, you make them into children again. If you are the second type of youth, then you are in my category. Are there lots of questions? Good, Good, shoot them!

Here you go......

1. Adults are doing so much of moral policing to us. How do we react when we can see their double standards?
You police them. You know the double standard police don’t have a standing usually.

2. My parents always fight. To find love I look for it in strangers, that’s the reason I have had many boyfriends, still I feel lonely, what should I do?

You know loneliness can produce a lot of creativity. You can come up with nice love songs, write poetry, write novels. You don’t have to read Mills & Boons. You can write one of them yourself. Use your loneliness to bring out more creativity and know that you can never be lonely. There is always some force that is with you. You meditate for a little while and you will know that the loneliness is gone. It cannot be filled by any friend at all. You go from one friend to another. After a little while you will become all mushy mushy. Always wanting something! Instead, you have to go like a lion or lioness. Wherever you are make a contribution to your friends rather that you wanting something from them. What do you say?

3.In case of career selection should I go by my heart or by my brain? Should it be a practical or emotional selection?

Career selection should be through your brain. And your hobby should be from your heart. You know, often many of you choose your hobby through your brain, because someone else is doing it. You think – “Let me also do that hobby”. But, it doesn’t work. Your hobby should be a matter of your heart; where your feelings go. But your career should be chosen through your head, right?

4. Some of our friends do drugs, smoke & drink. When we stop them, they say what’s the harm in trying? We really want to stop them but we are unsuccessful. Please suggest a way to stop them.

Sudarshan Kriya, Satsang. You know if you want to remain young, keep two things in mind. Keep away from alcohol, however tempting it may be as this is something that makes you old very soon. Spirit takes away the spirit in you. And I see enough spirit in you. You don’t need any extra spirit from outside. You are the source of spirit. You know when you get addicted, you don’t get any extra bliss or joy in that, but leaving that becomes so painful. This is the nature of these habits. The habits don’t give you great joy, but you can’t leave it, you become a slave of it. And you see families are ruined, nations are ruined, and communities have been ruined by alcohol.

Today the greatest problem of alchohol is in the Native American community, in America. The community could never come up because the youngsters started to drink so much. You hardly find a scientist, a doctor, an engineer, a politician, a businessman in the Native American community. Why? They have been supplied with so much drink and they drank and drank and they are ruined. So we can’t afford to do that. The greatest youth force is present in this part of the world today, in Asia and you have to take lead and feel that the whole world is your family. Own the world, not just your state or your little whatever.

5. How can I as an individual make a difference.
I think I answered that. As a person keep up your enthusiasm. There will be 100 efforts from many corners to pull down your enthusiasm.

6. How to become the most attractive person on this earth?
Become like me. Keep smiling.

7. Guruji why don’t you ever get angry? What is the reason for it?
I try to, but nobody believes it.

8. Why do bad things happen to good people?

Because they have been foolish. Foolish that you don’t understand that. No bad thing can happen to any good person at all. If you have sown a neem tree then a neem tree will come. If you have sown a mango seed, only mango tree will come. But you don’t know what happened, what you did in the past. You can’t pity yourself. Oh I am so good, everybody one else is bad. Why bad things happen to me. Bad things happen to you because you have been foolish. Not skillfull not intelligent enough so better improve yourself in many ways. And if some bad things have happened to somebody, it must be due to some past mistakes for that you help them. You are there to help those people who are victims, right?

9. How can one person change the world? Is it not better to focus on oneself?
You have to do both. Focus on yourself and also at that time on the environment. Saying let me 1st watch the TV then hear it. Or 1st let me hear and then watch. You will miss out okay.

10 What steps is the AOL taking regarding the corrupt politicians of India?
It’s waiting for you to grow up and become an honest politician.

11. What are your views about teenage romance, sex, relationship etc? If god wanted us to abstain from it why did he create an option?

You know. In the tree they pluck the small mangoes to make a pickle. The little ones are called kairi. If you pluck it when it is kairi, then it can’t become into a mango for mango to grow bigger, you can’t pluck it as a kairi, it will only be an achar (pickle).

So similarly certain things you need to wait for sometime. Then your body, your mind, your environment everything becomes right for it. So there is a particular time, particular phase, in life where you can enjoy this. But if you start doing it much before that then, it’s a lot of strain on your nervous system. Then you see that by the time you are 25 you will look like you are 50 years old. Do you see what I am saying?

So there is a certain biological cycle, biological rhythm in us. And we have to follow that. Honor that. We have 7-year cycle. You will see that first 7 years our mind matures, intellect matures. You can learn a lot in the first 7 years. And next 7 years till you are 21 your emotions mature. So you as teenagers are most emotionally troubled from 14 to 21, is when your emotional body is maturing. But many people don’t grow out of it at all. They remain there even though. They are 28 or 30 or 50. But, their emotional body is stuck at 15 or 16. So they behave in a very immature manner. Not that everybody is immature.

But today we are seeing that youth are maturing much earlier, in their emotional body also, because you see so much TV, soap operas. And you don’t want to be a part of that soap opera, right? You have already experienced that. You feel that you have already gone through that. The media has contributed a lot towards your emotional growth. By 21 you become mature in your physical, mental, emotional and intellectual body in your system. So you should stop becoming mushy mushy. After you are 21, you should stop complaining. And stop playing all those games, those emotional games, you know. Do you get what I am saying. So that emotional maturity has to come in us by 21. It should come to us. But you might get it by 15.

12. What is the purpose of life?
Make a list what is not. Then you will get it. The last thing will get the answer because once you get the answer there will be no question.

13. How do you select your life partner?
I have no experience. I am trying to figure that out still. I haven’t got an answer.

- Sri Sri Ravi Shankar